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Table of Contents
- Introduction
- Sexual Shame
- Factors That Influence Sexual Shame
- Deconstructing Sexual Shame in Counseling
- Developing a Sex-Affirming Counseling Framework
- Common Issues Related to Sexual Shame
- Addressing Sexual Shame in Therapeutic Settings
- Specific Strategies to Enhance Sexual Empowerment
- Referral to Specialists
- Attending to Countertransference
- Conclusion
- References